Would you turn these people in for Government Assistance Fraud?
Sonya asked:
My husband’s aunt and uncle are currently lying to the government to receive aide (medicaid, food stamps, and monthly assistance checks). This highly bothers me.
The uncle makes about $500-600/week. They have lied and said that they are seperated and that my aunt lives alone with their 14 yr old daughter and 17 yr old son. My aunt does not have a job, so the assistance that she receives is based upon NO income at all. Plus, the son that she claims actually lives with his brother in another state. If they were to apply for aide with their correct information, they’d be declined.
Here’s my dilemma … the uncle is deadbeat in the fact that he is constantly out cheating on the aunt. He never stays at home. He does not allow his wife and daughter to have access to a vehicle and phone in order to be able to leave and do anything. He is very controlling and will not let his wife work. She, unfortunately, will not leave him. The uncle spends ALL his money on the women he…
cheats with… to the point to where he won’t buy any food, clothing, or necessities for his wife and daughter. Last year, his daughter went 2 months with sneakers that had huge holes in the bottom because he refused to spend money on her. Once other family found this out, they bought her shoes. Every year, a family member alternates buying the girl school clothes because the father refuses to and everyone feels sorry for the daughter. I fear that if the assistance they had was removed that this situation would get worse. The daughter has health problems that Medicaid is paying for. Without the aide, her father would never pay for her to get medical treatment.
It infuriates me that the husband/wife are so blatantly “screwing” the system. Even though the wife is treated horribly, she chooses to stay with her husband… so the repercussions to her do not bother me. She’s chosen her life. But I fear if that help was removed, that their teenage daughter would go with little food
and no medical help for a condition that needs constant monitoring.
Sorry about how lengthy this is! Just wanted to give a full-view of the situation.
Oh.. I have tried to help my aunt and her daughter several times. I took the daughter shopping for school clothes last summer, got her hair cut, took her to dinner and a movie. I’ve bought them necessity items like shampoo, dish soap, etc because the uncle won’t. I’ve offered to let them live with me and help the aunt find work (I used to work at a staffing agency and still have good contacts there) if she left the husband. The entire family has tried to coax her away from her husband, but she won’t leave. They’ve been together since she was 15, and she’s now late 30’s … so his bad treatment is all she’s ever known and she thinks it’s acceptable… even after her husband has had a child with another woman while they’ve been married and has punched her in the face a few times. (Not everyday violence, but happens about once a year…) I can’t fathom why someone would stick with a man like that and have told her that many times. But she continues to do so.
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8 Responses to “Would you turn these people in for Government Assistance Fraud?”
It sounds like the aunt does need the assistance, though the husband is abusing the system. If she won’t leave him, then it is technically fraud, though if I were her I’d set up a 2nd bank account and deposit her checks there. She then needs to get straight with gov’t assistance and boot him out. If he won’t leave then there’s really nothing you can do. The problem is that if the kids have shoes with holes in them will it get better or worse if the gov’t checks stop coming?
It’s a tough situation and I understand why you are frustrated. I hope you and she can work through it.
It sounds like the entire family is a large enabling group!
I personally would be inclined to turn them in. I do not mind that she might actually qualify on her own, with the one child at home for aid, but for the lies to not be questioned, and for someone to knowingly look the other way is wrong.
If there is not any action taken to stop this, it will continue. He has no reason to give any money for clothes, as the “family” will take care of it. Lets just all keep telling him it is okay to do what he is doing.
Please call the local and state agency and tell them about this fraud. The fact that mom will not do anything is something she has to live with.
The issue for me is tax payer money supporting a fraud and lie. no thanks
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Yes. If it bothers you it’s because you know it’s wrong.
If you have all this inside information, why are you not blackmailing your Uncle for a cut? Think of the thousands of $$ you could have made by now!
Well if you suspect neglect of any kind especially for a child who has special needs then you could contact DFCS in your state. What they will do is to have someone go out to the home and check up on the child and the environment. You can explain the situation to them and what’s not being done for the child……which would force both parents to either step up and do what they’re suppose to do or be put in jail and charged with neglect of a minor. Even if the checks stop he can go to jail for non-support. They wouldn’t necessarily stop the assistance but it may decrease the amount but it depends on the needs of that child or it may stay the same. But at least you would have someone looking into the situation. The most important thing is to stop the neglect of the child……..there’s nothing you can do about the mother not leaving the father……..This information I share with you has happened in my family. For almost 40 years my mom stayed in a physically abusive relationship and not until a tragic situation then she decided it meant the end of that marriage. Sometimes we can’t see but one side but your aunt may have low self esteem or she feels that she can never find someone to love her……..hopefully she’ll realize she deserves better……..GOD bless…..I hope this helps.
Turn them in.
I think what you need to do is have them reported… as cruel as it sounds… just make sure the aunt has a back up method. While that is all going on, I would be aware that if she would leave him, she’d be fully eligible for the benefits. If they are living together but do not eat meals together, she can get food stamps for just herself and whoever else doesn’t eat with him. Maybe the assistance office can call them and figure this out so that way she isn’t screwed out of health care and food. Leave an anonymous tip with the office. Speak with the aunt and have her get out of that dangerous, controlling relationship. I wish you luck.
We are ONLY human and myself can’t judge but from personal experience I will tell you ONE thing.Follow your heart and do the right thing.Talk to your aunt and tell her that you don’t want her to be in the headlines and that you will do anything in your power to help.She is family and is your business you can’t be a hero but,you could bring justice and evidence to shed light where it has been darkness.
Your aunt still needs help and the daughter for simple fact there are hopeless and maybe the goverment will give them less money or just punish them for amount of time.
good luck